It’s been two weeks exactly now, since I gave birth to our son. He’s still precious as ever.
I’ve been asked a lot of questions by other expectant moms out there, so I thought I’d make a post about some of the challenges I faced and am facing now. Not that I’m an expert on any of these things, by any means, just sharing my experience.
1. Hydration vs Bladder Control
This one is embarrassing. For the first week after delivery, my ability to control my bladder was shot. I had four all out accidents, two which were at the hospital before we came home. Luckily, I was in our bathroom at home for the other two accidents and was able to hop into our walk-in shower so I didn’t pee all over the floor. I also had several close calls and was thankful that I was pretty much wearing a diaper for the first few days after delivery anyway. I became really nervous to drink water, but staying hydrated while breastfeeding is really important, so I felt like there was a constant tug of war going on in my head. I was especially scared of peeing the bed.
It eventually got better though. I started doing my kegels everyday and made sure I was going to the bathroom at least once every two hours, even if I didn’t have to go. I wouldn’t say I have full control of my bladder back just yet, but it’s pretty close now. I’m at least confident enough that I can go out in public without having an accident!
My milk came in about three days after giving birth, and boy did it come in! My breasts were so full, our baby couldn’t even get a latch on them. They hurt terribly and were leaking milk like crazy. I finally got the little guy to latch after several tearful hours. After he was done, I got out my breast pump to try for the first time. Wow, did that help! I was able to get them emptied enough that they didn’t hurt and our baby could latch on alright again. I’ve got the milk in the freezer and now I’m building up a supply for when I go back to work.
3. Sleep Deprivation
This one I’m still struggling with. Key advice that I’ve been given, and I’ll give anyone, too – sleep when baby is sleeping! It’s hard when you have visitors, because everyone wants to come see the baby, but you do need to learn to say no. Saying no to people isn’t something that comes easily for me, but if I’m going to be able to take care of the baby, I need to be at least partly rested. I can’t be feeling like a zombie for days on end. I’m just now getting comfortable with saying no. I skipped out on a family birthday dinner to stay home and sleep with the baby last night, and I can say I am very glad that I did. I felt bad not going, but I really needed the sleep. Usually our baby will sleep in the late evening and then be up for part of the night before going back to sleep, so if I don’t get to nap while he’s sleeping in the evening, bed time might not come until 4:00 am.
I think those are the three main things I’ve struggled with since giving birth, and none of them have been horrible. Except for the first time I peed my pants at home. I won’t lie, I cried because I felt so embarrassed and ashamed. My husband helped me find the humor in it though and comforted me. Your body goes through a lot during labor, and it takes some time to get things back to how they were before.
That being said, I am loving motherhood. Still strange for me to think I’m a parent now though, haha.